Last week, after deciding that it was time to euthanize one of our dogs who had been unexpectedly sick and in pain, I was lying in bed staring up at the ceiling, wondering how I’d missed it.
As I kept staring, I got a sense that the blades of our ceiling fans were slowing down the longer that I looked at them. Part of my mind began wondering if the constant focus that I was giving was in fact leading to a slowdown of time itself.
The temporality of the moment eventually broke, and I got up to return to work. The temporal needs of the house and my clients outweighed an extended zone-out.
I didn’t know if what I was doing was right, but I felt that it was. My decision was irreversible, but necessary. Thinking about it now, I just hope that I can continue to make necessary and right decisions. To not do so risks too much.
When we start thinking of online dating as dating that happens online, instead of as dating that happens on apps and websites specifically designed for heteronormative courtship, our sense of scale shifts with it.Michelle Santiago Cortés, Online Dating, Without the Apps
If you made it this far, why not share this newsletter with a friend? Or share with me some of the things that you found that you liked this week. Either way, I’m thrilled!